Why I Eloped

Elie1Ellie SaldanaLA, California

I never gave wedding planning much thought until I had to plan my own ceremony. When I started the process I thought it would be like putting together any other large party but this was not the case -- not at all.  With a wedding comes tradition, expectations, and pressure.  Initially, I wanted a simple wedding with a classic dress but soon I was overwhelmed.

The food, the flowers, the wording of the invitations, a now custom designed dress, each detail quickly becoming a source of debate and potential disagreement between my partner and I.

I knew my stress wasn't unique. I’d seen friends have similar experiences with their own weddings. The difference was that for me, the stress wasn’t worth it. The further into the planning process I got, the more I began to realize that it was my future marriage, not my wedding, that I valued.

With that realization, I began discussing elopement with my now husband. He agreed that it was a good option for us and it was settled. Six months before our planned wedding we ran off to Vegas without telling anyone but two friends who surprised us at the hotel and served as our witnesses.

It’s easy to get caught up in the belief that you need the perfect day and the perfect look to start your marriage off on the right foot. I enjoy a beautiful wedding as much as anyone but I’m grateful I realized it wasn’t for me and I’ve never regretted my decision to abandon tradition and elope.

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