Aiming for Equality in the Age of Social Media


zaBy Zahabiya Aejaz

[dropcap background="no" color="#333333"]I[/dropcap] would like to talk about this post by @im.highdude and many others on Instagram and social media.

Let me begin by explaining my vision of the future filled with empowered women. Women's empowerment means to me, that women especially in third world countries, having rights and access (yes I do mean rights and access separately) to the same kind of privileges that the men get, for example - right to life instead of killing the girl child in the womb; the right to education and putting her education at the same level of importance as the boy child’s; the right to choose their own TIME and partner for marriage; the right to have abortions or have kids and at their own pace and so much more.

[divider type="white" spacing="10"][dropcap background="no" color="#333333"]N[/dropcap]ow to get into the topic at hand, the above image and how it is deeply tied with the lack of freedom social and personal that women lack even today and even in the developed word. Here’s my take on it.

The above image to me represents the fact that women need to always act and dress “mature” and “appropriate” even from such a young age, they have to take more care of their outer appearance than what is going on on the inside and the image shows that it instilled in women from a very young age that their mannerisms, behaviour, dressing, body language etc. must be in a “correct” manner, something that is acceptable and expected by society; versus that of the boys- where, if you are a boy or a man, all you really need to do is just comb your hair and wear some clothes. That’s the base that society will happily accept without judgement.[divider type="short" spacing="10"]

My question is, why aren’t women and girls allowed the same kind of freedom? Why must they be more required to be in tune with the latest trends, why must their behaviour be tailored to what society deems acceptable?

This isn’t to say that fashion is anti-feminine or wrong, fashion is good. Nowadays even men are getting into caring for their looks more and there’s nothing wrong in it.[divider type="short" spacing="10"]

But I would like to leave you with this thought... even though the above image is a meme, a joke, and we don’t need to blow every joke out of proportion, every joke has some truth to it.

I would like to end with this invitation to you all...

Ask yourselves, why you do certain things, or why we women feel more obligated to do certain things more so than men? Then, let’s aim to change it. Let’s aim for equality.

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