Object – noun
a material thing that can be seen and touched.
a person or thing to which a specified action or feeling is directed.
Anonymous - adjective
without any name acknowledged, as that of author, contributor
of unknown name; whose name is withheld: an anonymous author.
lacking individuality, unique character, or distinction
Object Anonymous: Raising awareness about sexual objectification/harassment in public. Trying to educate both genders to prevent situations which harm us emotionally and physically. We aim to liberate women (or any person who feels self-conscious in public) and strive for a world where we can feel safe and free in public!
by Molly Dooner, London
Since starting Object Anonymous I have written for the majority of women that considers harassment this to be an issue; I have written to support those who are crying right now and I have written to educate those who do not understand the importance or significance of this matter.
I have avoided it becoming personal, although recently I have very much considered the only way I can be truly honest in my intentions for this project is by explaining how I got to this point and why.
I’ve been cat called since I was 15 years old in my school Uniform, it always made me feel uncomfortable. The situations that used to really get to me though were when a man would come up to me and tell me how beautiful I was and I would be as kind as I could. And then there would be a point where I’d have to say ‘No’ and he wouldn’t take NO for an answer. It would bring me back to a time in my relationship or a time I have been raped- where I was and am saying NO and my abusers don’t care…they just keep going. It doesn’t matter if you say NO, you are made to feel like it’s not your choice. The hardest part is at the end you feel like you lost all your power, because they got what they wanted and you’re now participating in something that hurts you.
This type of situation was happening all of the time to me for years, and I’d often go home and cry about it and hate my body for it. I honestly thought there was something wrong with me and I was never going to be respected by a male ever again.
I’d dress different, same results.
Smile less, same results.
Be less present, same results.
Stand up for myself, same results.
And then one day I realized it wasn’t me, I wasn’t the problem and I’m wasn’t going to go home and cry and get over it and stifle my angry, hot words.
I don’t want women to suffer anymore, we deserve better. We deserve respect and so do our bodies.
We teach young girls and young boys that female bodies are an invitation and objects of sex.
We also teach young women that all of our power, beauty and self-worth comes from the way our bodies look.
And this above anything is why I started this project because I am so exhausted by women feeling so much shame about their bodies.
Because every time you yell at a woman something about her body it confirms that lie in her head she is desperately trying to let go of which is ‘people only care about the way you look’ and ‘men look at woman like meat.’
Neither of these are true. In fact they are entirely false.
So I made Object Anonymous so I could publish the stories of these women and so people could know that this is happening every day, everywhere.
We are rising.
We are learning to love ourselves for exactly who we are.
We are changing this current dynamic; we are saying stop. We are saying No.
Not just because we want equality, but because we want respect.
And I’ve got no more tears left to cry about you.
But I can say I’ve got infinite love. Infinite love to heal, educate and liberate.
Let us continue.